Posts in From the heart
Thursday, dog walks and a clean kitchen floor...

Let's say, today did not go as I planned it to! And I'm finding that with a lot of days at the moment. Do you find that too? Today I was practically invisible; I've had cars almost reverse in to me, people walking so close to me you'd think I was a ghost...plus a whole dog shaming incident that I think you'll enjoy hearing about (sorry Gizmo). But it was my reaction to all of these things that surprised me. Normally when stuff like this happens, I feel the world is against me but today I thought about why I might be taking everything to heart.

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Uncomfortable about being the centre of attention on your wedding day? You're not alone!

I have to admit something; I wasn't overly keen about being the centre of attention on my wedding day. Ok, there was a narcissistic part of me saying "this is your moment Sarah, they'll see how pretty you are with your hair and make-up done properly and not looking like your usual put-a-pair-of-jeans-on-and-leave-the-house self" but inside I felt like a complete fake. Probably because a) I love my jeans and b) I was thinking about other people's view of me and not my own opinion. I thought I was alone in this but I don't think I am, so if you're finding this too, know that there's someone out there who gets you. 

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The end of an era and new beginnings

I made the unconscious decision to do what I'm doing now around November last year. It only became a conscious decision two weeks ago though because, like all the other times I've had to make hard decisions, I panicked, doubted myself, questioned everything and tried to justify every reason not to do what I knew I had to. It was time to let something go. 

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You'll never please everyone, so start with yourself

Wedding planning is hard enough. Throw in some well meaning family members who try to help by pushing their ideas on you and you're done for.

Now, not all family members and friends are like this, of course; I'm talking about the ones that complain about the date you've chosen or the venue being too far away. The ones who try to dictate which flowers you have or tell you that it'll be embarrassing when nobody eats the food as what you've chosen isn't traditional (we had that one!).

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Does perfectionism deserve an invitation to your wedding?

"What's you're biggest weakness?" the person interviewing me would ask. "I'm a perfectionist" came my reply. Let's face it, it's the text book answer to a question like that. 

I never really thought about it; I was always dedicated to my work in teaching, put so much time and effort into planning and making resources that the kids would love and respond to and then continued that level of diligence with my work now.

But it's soul destroying. Exhausting too...I've watched my shiny perfectionist badge tarnish as I've realised that the level of perfectionism I've held in my work has massively crept in to (or perhaps has always been a part of) every day life.

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If Elsa Rose were a bride (and why I've not labelled my niche)

I'm currently sat on the stairs while our little one is refusing to sleep. Grrr. Perfect opportunity to write a blog post, right? ;)

I've been bogged down recently with emails from "coaches" - side note, I don't mean any offence by that, it just feels that every woman running a business these days is running a business to tell other women how to run their businesses...I digress - saying that to be successful you need to do X, Y and Z and I'll admit, just like I did in teaching, I've tried to implement too many things that have ultimately brought me down.

 

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